How to be Single!Ladies you know how dating goes...or has it been so long you've forgotten?!? Ahhh well you know that feeling of being in love...or lust(lets be honest)! Going out on dates, getting to know the other person, learning about their likes and dislikes, you do everything together, often time forgetting you had a life outside of that person and then all of sudden BOOM hit right in the face with the "single" status! You're moping around like your relationship was the only thing keeping you afloat. You're wondering helplessly trying to find someone else to date, and before long you're back in another relationship...same ole dating situation...same ole slap in the face and then it starts all over again. A freaking love cycle of slaps in the face! That's a lot of hands to the face if I would say!
It's time to come out of that dreadful love cycle! We do not need someone else to dictate our happiness. Yes it would be great to be cuddled up with the "bae" but we need to first date ourselves in order to truly find a man (not a "bae") worth dating!
The Key Steps to Dating Yourself!
- Get to know yourself! Learn what you like and what you dislike. When you are in a relationship, especially one that isn't quite good for you, you tend to stay in it and put up with all the things that you dislike! You say he'll change buuuut uh you must not have read my tips on how to Spot a Jerk! Find out what you want in a guy and what you don't want too!
- Figure out your goals-what do you want to accomplish by dating yourself! Just like you have goals in a relationship with someone else, you also have to have goals for yourself! Do you want to learn how to love yourself more? Do you need more confidence in yourself? If you lack something essentially you want be able to find someone that will replace that lack! Find out what you are missing and fix it!
- What are your values and your beliefs?You have morals...OWN UP TO THEM! Don't feel ashamed of them. When you are able to tell yourself what you want for yourself and in a possible relationship then there is no turning back! Own what you believe! If they don't want what you want then tell them "To the left to the left"(yep a Beyonce Reference)! Let's say you want to wait until marriage don't feel ashamed of it let that person know up front!
- Take your own personality test! Are you funny, are you introverted, do you love to have a good time figure out your personality instead of trying to adapt to someone else's version of you!
Once you learn to date yourself, you will be able to know your strength, weaknesses, what you like to do, where you like to go and not cringe at the thought of telling it to a person of interest...If they don't like them OH WELL, cue 'NSync, BYE BYE, BYE!
Fun Ways to Date Yourself!
1.Treat Yourself to the Perfect Date!Yes that includes taking yourself out on your own perfect date. Where the perfect date night outfit and pick the perfect makeup look. Where have you been wanting to go? Want to go to that fab restaurant that you've been dying to eat at? Wanna go see that movie that's about to come out... How to Be Single *wink wink,* Go do it, have fun, don't worry about who is looking or why you are sitting alone, don't worry about all of that. Have fun you deserve it, or as The Weeknd say YOU EARNED IT!
2.Take Care of Yourself!
Did you know that solitude aids in a healthy relationship! Take some alone time just for yourself. Get a massage, get a mani/pedi, take a nice long bath, read a book while you're at it or throw on your fave Netflix movie. Don't forget to take care of your body by exercising, eating healthy, meditating, not for someone else but for you!
3.Get Creative with Yourself!
Get out that pen and paper and be like a blogger for a day. Write down everything that comes on your mind. Write a poem...heck write a book! Paint, Draw, Sew or take up photography! Your instagram will thank you! You never know what gifts you have hidden inside of you. I know a lot of you have Pinterest well stop pinning and actually do some of those DIY's you've been wanting to try!
Learn something new! Take a Zumba or hot yoga class. Always burning your food, take a cooking class or my ultimate favorite past-time learn how to bake desserts! Get into the risk-taking mode. Face your fears, go zip-lining, volunteer for something, get your hands dirty, and get adventurous! IT'S LIBERATION TIME!
By dating yourself you are determining your own self worth! You learn how to commit to doing things on your own. You learn how to self reflect and learn the beauty of self care! You learn more about who you are, your aspirations, your goals, your belief system!
Drive the seat of your own life and stop letting someone else do it for you! Trust me if you don't they will wind up crashing and you'll be the one hurt and in pain while they walk away bandage free! Embark on your own journey and you will eventually find the right person at your most opportune timing!
What are some fun things you would love to do for yourself?
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